Counseling Thyself: “Did I Really Say That?”

Jane FLJane Seaton

Seaton Consultants, Athens GA

 

A few years into my career as an educational audiologist, I was shocked to hear a mother whose child I had seen at 10 months of age tell a parent group how devastated she was to hear the audiologist say that her daughter would never talk. Assuming (incorrectly as it turned out) I was that audiologist, I was appalled to think I would have said anything that could possibly be interpreted this way. Reflecting back on my reaction then, I now realize how often our comments can be taken out of context or misinterpreted in stressful situations such as when parents first learn of their child’s hearing loss.

What Was Said / What Was Heard

Margolis (2004) reported approximately half of new information is forgotten immediately, and half of unfamiliar information is remembered incorrectly. Add in the increasing cultural diversity and non-native English speakers being seeing in all audiologic practice settings, and we have the perfect recipe for miscommunication.

It has been well documented that most children with congenital hearing loss are born to parents with typical hearing, and the vast majority of these parents have little or no prior exposure to or experience with deafness. To say that identification of hearing loss through the universal newborn hearing screening process is often unexpected, shocking and stressful for new parents is a huge understatement. In our eagerness to help families access state-of-the-art technology and services as quickly as possible, we may unintentionally compound parent confusion and stress by providing lots of new information in a short period of time at the end of a diagnostic appointment. Too frequently little time is left for questions or feedback concerning what parents have heard from the audiologist.

Reducing Misunderstandings

Parents report they need for us to take time to listen to them and encourage them to ask questions (Luterman and Kurtzer-White, 1999). However, when the diagnosis of hearing loss is unexpected, some parents may not feel emotionally ready or knowledgeable enough to ask questions until they’ve had time to process what has been heard. It can be helpful to encourage parents and caregivers to let you know how they are feeling prior to, during and after their initial diagnostic appointment. Asking a parent what they will tell a spouse or other family member about our results and recommendations is a strategy that can help us know what has been heard and what information needs repeating or re-explaining in nontechnical terms. Use of an interpreter for non-native English speakers can be helpful, but this also adds another link in the communication process where misunderstandings can occur (Alberg, 2003).

Helping parents clarify their “next step” (e.g. scheduling another appointment, talking with pediatrician, contacting their early intervention service coordinator) facilitates parent empowerment and should be automatic each time a family is seen. Providing names, job descriptions and reasons why other professionals in the EHDI and/or education systems may be contacting parents can lessen some of the confusion felt by families when starting their journey with hearing loss. I’ve often found that parents appreciate a brief phone call 2-3 days after we’ve met to find out how they’re doing and answer any questions, even when we have a follow-up appointment scheduled later.

reflectionsAudiologists as Reflective Practitioners

I admit I was relieved to find out that I wasn’t the audiologist being referred to in the situation described above, but I often wonder how many times misunderstandings have occurred without my realizing it. Donald Schön described the need for reflective practice more than 30 years ago, and it is probably more valuable than ever today (Scaife, 2010). Now that a wealth of information is available instantly from a variety of sources, the value of taking time to listen to ourselves as well as our clients and their caregivers is immeasurable.

References

Alberg, J. (2003). BEGINNINGS serves families with diverse needs. Volta Voices, 1, 15-17.

Luterman, D. & Kurtzer-White, E. (1999). Identifying hearing loss: Parents’ needs. American Journal of Audiology, 8, 13-18.

Margolis, R. (2004). Audiology information counseling: What do patients remember? Audiology Today, 16, 14-15.

Scaife, J. (2010). Supervising the reflective practitioner: An essential guide to theory and practice. London: Routledge.

When 1 on 1 Just Isn’t Enough …

photoChelsea Twyman, Class of 2016

Kent State University/NOAC

When audiologists and patients discuss amplification, the topic of realistic expectations must be carefully discussed. This discussion lets the patient know that adjusting to amplification will take time, patience and effort, and that struggles might occur along the way.  Some patients have minor challenges that we can readily solve with programming adjustments.  Most patients can also acquire new communication and coping strategies, especially if we remember to provide that support.  However, how can we help patients who still struggle with the following challenges after their month-long hearing aid trial?

  • Not advancing to appropriate amplification target/not obtaining enough benefit;
  • Not tolerating high frequency input/not improving speech clarity;
  • Daily HA maintenance and/or using hearing assistive technology (HAT);
  • Psychosocial distress (perceived HA benefit but burdened by cosmetics, stigma, etc.);
  • The hard work of adjustment outweighing perceived benefit.

Patients struggling with these challenges could benefit from group support, defined by Katz and Bender (1976) as “voluntary small group structures for mutual aid in the accomplishment of a specific purpose…usually formed by peers who have come together for mutual assistance in satisfying a common need, overcoming a common handicap or life disrupting problem, and bringing about desired social and/or personal change” (cited by Solomon, 2004, p. 393).

Support groups can help not only patients but also their communication partners, since they too are directly affected:

Brooks et al (2001) described frequent misunderstandings and resulting frustrations in couples in whom one member had a hearing loss. Piercy and Piercy (2002) reported that limited communication can negatively affect a couple’s intimate relationship. Most recently, Scarinci et al (2008) noted a broad range of effects that hearing loss had on the SPs [spouses] in their everyday lives. They noted difficulties in carrying out normal conversations, effects on the SPs’ emotions such as frustration or embarrassment, limitations in their social lives, and increased tensions in their marital relationships. (Preminger & Meeks, 2010, p. 316)

These studies highlight the importance of including both patients and their communication partners in a support group, specifically a group aural rehabilitation program.

10872735_sRecently, I attended a support group for patients with cochlear implants (CI) and their significant others.  The patients at this support group all had difficulty with two or more of the categories discussed above.  Usually, this support group splits into two subgroups — one for CI users and one for their communication partners, to chat separately before coming together near the end of the session.  On the day I visited, attendance was small due to the weather, so the group stayed together the entire meeting. Continue reading

Trust, Catharsis, Change

PicsArt_1397486111881Chanel Rogers, Class of 2017

Kent State University/NOAC

This past February I had the opportunity to be involved in a hearing screening at a senior health center. I never imagined a hearing screening would provide me with as great of a life lesson as it did. I had the pleasure of meeting and screening a woman (“Ms. B”) who was around 65 years old. She reported interest in our screening program because she had been experiencing difficulties in many areas of life that require hearing, such as not following what was being said in one-on-one conversations, contributing to conversations in a group setting, and understanding song lyrics while attending church.

With all of the many listening challenges that Ms. B had described, I expected her results from the hearing screen to show that she had at least a moderate hearing loss, but that was not the case. The results that I collected showed a mild hearing loss with no frequency tested being greater than 35 dB, but it affected her greatly on an everyday basis.

Earning Trust

My preceptor and I summarized our brief test, relating the results to the troubles that she had mentioned.  She seemed to feel safe with us, because she then began to recount not just other hearing problems and her family’s frustrations, but other health and safety concerns and their impact on the quality of her life.  The more she shared (“This is the first time I’ve said this out loud”), the more she seemed to understand her resistance to help (“As they say, denial is not just a river in Egypt”). I believe Ms. B started to trust us (English & Kasewurm, 2012) and her trust showed through the emotions that she shared.

Ms. B began to cry and as more information came out, a revelation occurred to her. We silently marveled as Ms. B moved herself out of the state of denial, into acceptance. By the end of the screening, she was ready to make an appointment to discuss the options available to her for amplification and other assistive technologies.

Catharsis and Change

When she felt ready to leave, Ms. B put on her coat and while tying her belt, she said with some surprise and relief, “I feel better!”  Later, we reflected on that comment, indicative of catharsis.  When given the opportunity (i.e., given time, respect, compassion), patients may feel ready to unburden themselves of worries and fears. Once these are shared with a receptive listener, the speaker does not feel alone and defensive, but instead feels understood and supported (Stone et al., 2010).  The subsequent emotional relief changes how we view change: perceived barriers are no longer insurmountable, and options can be considered.

In this experience, I learned a very important lesson that I will carry with me throughout all of my future years of practice. That lesson is that, no matter what the hearing loss looks like on paper, it can affect each individual differently. Before this day, I did not think a mild hearing loss would have such a great impact on someone’s everyday life as it did with Ms. B. She helped me see firsthand that being in the healthcare field requires us to be compassionate and empathetic to the issues that the patient faces and also that just because the patients are in to see for a particular reason, there may be something deep down that has been suppressed that may come to light with their time with us.

This day made me realize that it is true that we must treat the whole patient and not just the hearing loss, which is an essential mental note I will carry with me forever.

References

English, K., & Kasewurm, G. (2012). Audiology and patient trust. Audiology Today, 24(2), 33-38.

Stone, D., Patton, B., & Heen, S. (2010). Difficult conversations: How to discuss what matters most. NY: Viking.

Supporting the Unsteady: Counseling in Vestibular Rehabilitation

Thumbnail picSimon Howe, Clinical Scientist (Audiology)BSc (Hons), MSc

Audiology Department
Manchester Royal Infirmary

 

Rehabilitate (v): To restore to good health or useful life

As an Audiologist working for the National Health Service in the UK, it is my job to rehabilitate both patients with hearing loss and those with vestibular deficits. Whilst full recovery from vestibular deficits is likely, up to 2/3rds can become chronic, disabling conditions (Yardley & Luxon, 1994). As General Practitioners (GPs) tend only to refer those cases of dizziness persisting for months for a specialist opinion, the majority of patients seen in our Vestibular Rehabilitation Clinic at the Manchester Royal Infirmary have developed chronic dizziness, present for many months or years.

Many patients experiencing an acquired loss of vestibular function will recover fully without the need for any therapeutic intervention. So what causes some patients’ vestibular deficit to become a chronic balance problem? Firstly, the long-term prescription of vestibular sedatives by GPs is commonplace, and inhibits the natural process of recovery, and secondly, the natural behaviour for motion-provoked or situation-specific dizziness is to avoid the movements or environments which elicit the symptoms, again hampering recovery. Often these avoidance strategies can result in almost phobic thoughts related to these triggers of the dizziness.

Exercise-based vestibular rehabilitation is the primary therapeutic approach for such patients, focusing on promoting central compensation for the acquired vestibular deficit. The application and benefits of vestibular rehabilitation are well documented (Hillier & McDonnell, 2011). However the more I work with patients with chronic balance problems, the more I find myself increasingly perplexed by their unpredictable prognosis. Three things strike me as unexplained:

  1. Some patients struggle to make any meaningful progress with vestibular rehabilitation, despite apparently adhering to their exercise programme.
  2. The time taken for patients to recover seems to be completely independent of the degree of vestibular deficit.
  3. Attendance at rehabilitation appointments and adherence to exercise programmes is inconsistent, even if the patient’s difficulties would appear to act as sufficient motivation.

Reassuringly, it appears I am not alone in seeing this variability (Herdman et al, 2012), therefore there are clearly other factors at play which are influencing recovery. But there is a piece missing from the puzzle; something still unaccounted for in all the research thus far.

The Missing Piece

Chronic balance disorders can be functionally limiting conditions because of our reliance on balance to fulfil the most basic of personal, household, and occupational responsibilities. Difficulties in performing these tasks can increase dependence on family and friends, and can place strain on relationships. Where such a support network is not readily available, the resulting social isolation can have profound emotional effects. Reduced activity levels can also lead to an increased incidence of co-morbid conditions which can in turn exacerbate the psychological impact. Some chronic balance disorders can also be unpredictable in the frequency and severity of their presentation and this can further increase emotional stress.

So here is the paradox, the missing piece: this inter-relationship between dizziness and emotion is well recognised and documented (Yardley, 1994), and yet there is a very poor correlation between patient and clinician ratings of dizziness severity (Honrubia et al, 1996).

In many ways this poor correlation is not unlike the mismatch we might see in Aural Rehabilitation between the hearing difficulties the clinician might predict from a patient’s audiogram and their self-perceived disability. In fact hearing loss and loss of vestibular function are not dissimilar. Difficulties are often specific to certain activities or situations and can therefore cause a change in self-concept; the functional capabilities of the patient have changed and this can have a profound effect on their feeling of self-worth.

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Mistakes I’ve Made: Assumptions

eileen-rallEileen Rall, AuD

Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia

So why am I sharing with you some of the mistakes I’ve made along the way? Usually when I am sharing “life lessons” with my daughters or my students, I am trying to give them the opportunity to learn from my stumbles so they don’t have to experience them on their own. One of the most important skills we can have as professionals (and as human beings) is the ability to recognize when we can do something better or even more importantly, when we do something wrong. Maya Angelou’s quote, “When you know better, you do better” is something I try to live by every day.  This philosophy is one of the reasons why I love where I work. At CHOP, we are constantly re-evaluating our clinical practice to identify areas where we can be better – what a humbling and yet exciting place to be. To do that well, you have to practice reflectively (Schön, 1983; Thompson, 2008) and be ready to say that the things we do every day can be better.

One of the areas that I feel I have grown the most in is my avoidance of making assumptions. When you first start out in this field, you are (as I was) unconsciously incompetent – you don’t know what you don’t know. I remember trying to soothe a parent’s anxiety when scheduling her child’s surgical procedure by telling her, “Don’t worry, it is a really simple procedure, they’ve done it thousands of times.”  I assumed that if she understood the routine nature of the surgery, her anxiety would vanish.  It did not; instead, she very sternly said to me “Don’t ever tell a parent that their child’s surgery is simple and ‘nothing to worry about.’ You clearly don’t know what it is like to be a parent.”  She was right, I didn’t know. I assumed that I could put myself in her place and comfort her; instead, I ended up offending her. Flash forward 8 years to me anxiously sitting outside the OR when my youngest was having this same “simple” procedure – it was the longest 14 minutes of my life and I would have bitten off anyone’s head who dared to tell how I should feel.

Assumption: All Swans Are White

Assumption: All Swans Are White

Sometimes we assume we know how someone will feel about information they receive. I was leading a lab in amplification.  We brought in a friend of mine who had clearly been suffering with hearing loss for a few years.  She was even evaluated by an audiologist the year before and hearing aids were recommended but not fit.  The students were responsible for doing a complete evaluation and then develop a treatment plan that would include amplification.  She did indeed have a hearing loss so the students launched into what hearing aid that they were going to get her instead of reviewing her test results. They assumed that, because she reported that she had been previously diagnosed with hearing loss and hearing aids were recommended, she understood her diagnosis. She did not. I watched her eyes glaze over as the students enthusiastically described the advanced-feature hearing aid they were going to order.

I interrupted their plan and asked the patient – do you have any questions? – and she responded, “Are they saying that I have a hearing loss?”  As smart and as previously well-counseled as she was, she thought that if she took enough allergy medicine before the test, her hearing loss would have gone away.  We assumed she knew – we didn’t realize what her truth was. Simply put, she was not ready for this conversation.

We Can’t Assume Readiness

Since “readiness” is a process involving stages of awareness, acceptance and adjustment, it is quite possible our patient is not yet ready, but “in process,” or as the Ida Institute describes it, in the midst of a patient journey.  We are not mind-readers; we need to ask “readiness” questions with the 0-10 scale or other tools to meet patients where they are – not where we think they are. Once the students developed the requisite common ground (Brown et al., 2003), my friend felt comfortable with their plan and is now a champion for using amplification, sharing her positive experience with anyone who will listen. That would have never happened if we continued with our assumptions and didn’t address her questions.

I recently had to share some difficult information AND generate ideas for a new opportunity at a team meeting. My assumption, and how I ended up making an ass out of me (not U), was that everyone at the meeting came with the same information. BIG MISTAKE.  The result of the meeting was elevated negative emotions, hurt feelings, significant anger with me and hardly any enthusiasm for the opportunity I hoped to move forward on. As a team leader, I needed to take a step back and support each team member to get them to the same place before we could move forward. Now, instead of working on the opportunity, I am doing damage control.

So what am I hoping you take away from this? Try to not make assumptions – instead take the time and acquire the skills to learn the truth. The definition of assume is “to suppose to be the case, without proof.”  Try to remember to seek out the “proof” and, if you are successful, in the end you will stumble a whole lot less.

References:

Brown, J. Weston, W., & Stewart, M. (2003). The third component [to patient-centered care}: Finding common ground.  In M. Stewart et al. (Eds.), Patient-centered medicine: Transforming the clinical method (2nd ed.), pp. 83-99.  Abingdon, UK: Radcliffe Medical Press.

Ida Institute. (n.d.)

Schön, D. (1983). The reflective practitioner: How professionals think in action. NY: Basic Books.

Thompson, S. (2008). The critically reflective practitioner. NY: Palgrave Macmillan.

Counseling and Health Literacy

Kris English, Ph.D.Kris English, PhD

The University of Akron/NOAC

 

Audiologic counseling has many facets, including patient education (Clark & English, 2014). Patient education is not inherently easy: every audiologist has had those moments when we realize our patient doesn’t understand us.  Sometimes the patient is emotionally distraught and cannot concentrate, and sometimes we unintentionally provide more information than the patient-as-learner can process.

Another variable to consider is the patient’s health literacy. In addition to reading abilities, health literacy as measured by the National Assessment of Adult Literacy (NAAL)(2006) includes the ability to interpret graphs, do basic calculations (numeracy skills), and use a computer.  We cannot take any patient’s health literacy for granted; in fact, the NAAL reports that more than 1/3 of adults in the United States (77 million) have limited (basic and below basic) health literacy skills (see figure below).  Persons at basic/below basic literacy levels are not able to read or fully understand a newspaper article, fill out forms for Social Security, Medicaid or Medicare, or follow a bus schedule or calendar (Weiss, 2007).  Relatedly, low health literacy is linked to more mistakes in medication usage, more emergency room visits and hospitalizations, and a higher risk of death. Relevant to audiology, it could mean misunderstanding instructions for hearing aid use, misinterpreting Internet sites about cochlear implant candidacy or auditory processing problems, or an inability to complete scales/questionnaires or provide a medical history.

Source: National Assessment of Adult Literacy

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Health literacy skills are affected by age, education, income, health insurance status, and first language acquisition.  But as Weiss (2007) warns us, “You can’t tell by looking” (p. 16).

Health literacy is a topic of high interest these days because health-related information continues to grow in complexity. This article has two parts: defining health literacy, and suggestions for audiologists on how to address health literacy concerns in their patient care.

Definitions of Health Literacy are Evolving

The definitions of health literacy have evolved rather quickly, from the static “snapshot” described in the figure above, to a dynamic process of growth and empowerment (Nutbeam, 2008).  For instance, rather than pinning down health literacy as an unchangeable state as the NAAL data might imply, Zarcadoolas et al. (2005) prefer to define health literacy as “the wide range of skills, and competencies that people develop to seek out, comprehend, evaluate and use health information” (emphasis added)(p. 196). Such development can occur independently on the patient’s end, but it also can occur as a result of effective communication with health care providers. In other words, if we counsel and educate effectively, a patient’s health literacy level should increase over time.

Berkman et al. (2010) list several definitions of health literacy, but their own refinement is most suitable for our purposes:

Health literacy is the degree to which individuals can obtain, process, understand, and communicate about health-related information needed to make informed health decisions (p. 16)

They added the phrase “communicate about” to the Institute of Medicine’s 2004 definition because they considered oral communication skills (listening and speaking) to be a critical part of health care – as do audiologists and others.  For instance, Ishikawa and Yabo (2008) point out that, in addition to NAAL’s consideration of functional skills (reading, interpreting graphs, computation, computer use), communication skills are also essential, including the ability to:

  • Articulate health concerns
  • Describe symptoms accurately
  • Ask pertinent questions
  • Understand verbal information accurately

Another dimension to health literacy is media literacy, or the ability to critically evaluate media messages in all formats.  Additionally, health literacy is affected by context: patients may be proficient in managing medications and appointments for other health conditions, but with no prior experience with hearing loss, they may not immediately be ready to apply what they know to the novel context of audiologic care. And although not mentioned in the health literacy literature, audiologists might want to add understanding/use of technology (apart from computers) as a health literacy skill.

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When Hearing Aids Are Not the Answer

photo[1]Nicolle Yopa, Class of 2015

Kent State University/NOAC

Last year I was presented with an ethical dilemma in clinic. The patient was a high functioning 21-year-old male with Down Syndrome (“John”), who had a bilateral mild-to-moderate mixed hearing loss. John was enrolled in college classes and was being evaluated as his hearing impairment was affecting his ability to follow along in large lecture halls. He was also about to move to campus and live independently, so it was more important than ever that his hearing impairment be treated.

John received much support and encouragement from his father to proceed with amplification. The father attended every appointment with John, including the hearing aid evaluation. We recommended RITE aids with custom molds, as John would likely have difficulty inserting a dome in his ears due to dexterity issues. The father agreed and chose to proceed with the fitting. The next day, the father called the clinic; when he discussed our recommendations with his wife, she requested we change the custom molds to an open dome for cosmetic reasons. My supervisor explained to him that we could fulfill that request, but John would have to display successful insertion of the hearing aids before we could let him leave with them. Privately, my supervisor worried that fitting John with domes would set him up for failure.

Worries Confirmed

Both John’s mother and father accompanied him at the hearing aid fitting. This is when we learned that the family was not in complete agreement with our recommended plan to treatment. Unlike the previous appointment, John now wanted nothing to do with the hearing aids and even cried after experiencing difficulty with inserting the dome tips. Despite his difficulties, his mother opposed switching to custom molds. Her main concern was that the hearing aids could be seen from behind. This concern in turn became John’s concern and he showed much discomfort in wearing them. His mother stood her ground when we wanted John to keep practicing. She told us that they were “educated people who could help John at home.” For reasons unknown, family and audiologists were not sharing the same goal: to confirm that John could manage this task on his own.

The appointment was scheduled for an hour but John’s mother cut us off at 30 minutes 10.30because John had class. We told her we had planned on an hour because many important things needed to be discussed; regardless, they opted to cut the appointment short so that John could make the last 20 minutes of class. My supervisor reluctantly agreed to let John leave with the hearing aids and have his parents practice with him at home.

As an educational clinic, we routinely video record the appointments so that we can critique ourselves later (with written patient permission, of course). When we later viewed this appointment, we learned that John had cried when we stepped out of the room and tossed the hearing aids on the table calling them “a total waste of time.” On his way out, he was heard to comment to his mother that he was taking them off before class.

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Sudden Patient-Audiologist Terminations and The Effect on the Patient

AliAlison Marinelli, Class of 2018 (AuD/PhD)

The University of Connecticut

Ideally, patients form bonds with their audiologists because of the unique role in caring for them and their devices. Repeated positive interactions allow for greater relationships to develop. As a patient, I’ve had the pleasure of working with several talented audiologists over the years and have had a variety of experiences. Now that I’m in graduate school for audiology, I can’t help but use the academic material that I’m learning to take an analytical eye to my own audiologic experiences and evaluate them more thoroughly. A particular experience that was critical to my young life was the tragic death of my beloved audiologist, Dr. Toni Maxon.

Bonding ….

Toni was one of the first audiologists that my parents consulted after my diagnosis of hearing loss at nine months. My parents were seeking all possible avenues to treat my hearing loss, and were exploring the auditory verbal path when they visited her at the University of Connecticut Speech Language and Clinic. I don’t remember these early days, but it was always obvious to me that Toni’s empathetic counseling assisted my parents with the coping process associated with the diagnosis.

Maxon Toni

Dr. Toni Maxon

My father affectionately recalls the time when my parents were discussing amplification options and I was eating crackers, babbling to my parents about the toys I was playing with nearby. Toni gently pointed out to my parents how desperately I was attempting to communicate, and that the limited language I was producing was due to the limited inputs I was receiving. The kind manner with which she delivered the information touched my parents and started a very close working relationship that carried on throughout all future treatment. When Toni left the UCONN clinic to start the New England Center for Hearing (NECHEAR) with Dr. Diane Brackett, I continued services with her there. My parents and I looked forward to appointments and we continued our sessions with respect for her knowledge and appreciation of her superior services. As she had the ability to impart life experience, give advice, inquire and be truly interested in our family as time marched on, we valued her more and more.

….And Then Loss

This congenial relationship changed in 2007 when my family received a phone call that informed us that Toni had been in a car accident that claimed her life.  As anyone who experiences an unexpected event like this would be, we were devastated. A memorial to celebrate her life was organized, and I was asked to speak. I spent countless hours editing and revising my speech, but the words never seemed to accurately represent what Toni meant to me. I remember delivering my speech at her memorial, and choking up at the fact that I had to say goodbye. NECHEAR had also planted a memorial garden, and to dedicate it, they held a celebration of Toni’s life. Both of these special events helped to ease the pain of loss. In the aftermath following her death, qualified clinicians were brought in to program my cochlear implants. The co-founder of NECHEAR, Diane Brackett, also a long-time clinician of mine, sat in on the initial mappings and conveyed important audiological information to the new clinicians on my case. Since I had known Diane previously, she bridged the gap between the old and the new. Continue reading

Sometimes Emotions Are the Point

Kris English, Ph.D.Kris English, PhD

The University of Akron/NOAC

Scenario: Today an audiologist will meet a new patient, Mr. Jones. She asks about his concerns and obtains a comprehensive case history. When the testing is completed, she confirms the patient’s suspicions about his hearing problems. She begins to discuss treatment options, but then realizes her patient has stopped listening.  She pauses, and soon the patient breaks his reverie. He shakes his head, makes eye contact again and says:

The thing is … years ago, I was so impatient with my dad’s hearing problems.  I didn’t even try to understand and just stopped talking to him.  I was pretty awful about the situation. Then after he died, I started to realize how stubborn and selfish I had been.  This man I had loved so much – we had been become strangers.  And now it’s me – and maybe the whole cycle will start again with my kids! That would just … it would just break my heart.”   His voice breaks and he looks away again, sighing deeply.

In less than 30 seconds, several emotions have tumbled out: guilt, regret, self-blame, worry.  The audiologist was mindful of the change in demeanor, and gave the patient the opportunity to express these concerns.  But now that we know what the patient is experiencing, what do we do?  Do we assure the patient that everything will work out and then “get back to the point” of the appointment?  Are we defining “the point” only from our own perspective? And if so, are we ourselves missing an important point?

Portrait of an apprehensive senior man.

Portrait of an apprehensive senior man.

What Exactly Is The Point?

In a recent conversation, Tim Cook (webmaster at the Ida Institute) mentioned a concern shared by many Ida seminar participants: When patients get emotional, how do we redirect them back to hearing solutions – that is, get them “back to the point”?   This concern assumes that patient emotions will inherently impede progress — not to imply that the emotions are irrelevant to the patient, just irrelevant to the appointment goals. Emotions are perceived as a problem, a “noisy byproduct” that we need to manage, control, suppress (Stone et al., 2010, p. 13). Continue reading

Avoiding the Enemy Camp

ClarkJohnJohn Greer Clark, PhD

The University of Cincinnati & Clark Audiology, LLC

An enemy generally says and believes what he wishes.

Thomas Jefferson

While our patients are not the enemy, we most certainly at times can be viewed as theirs.  Adult patients arrive at our office doors at a set stage within their hearing loss journey.  This journey does not begin with the appointment with the audiologist (Gregory, 2012).  It often follows a long and circuitous path that may have only reached a point of suspicion of hearing loss at the time of consultation.  Along the way, patients who have not yet reached a stage of readiness to embrace our recommended hearing solutions may have categorized persons into one of two camps – the ally camp and the enemy camp.

The enemy camp is filled with those who want the patient to address the very situation he or she has been trying to deny.  Friends and family who have been noticing communication failures, and who are becoming increasingly frustrated living with someone else’s untreated hearing loss, have likely suggested scheduling a hearing test on numerous occasions.  As part of many patients’ pre-appointment journey, those with hearing loss may have progressed from scanning hearing aid advertisements in magazines and newspapers to reading these advertisements in detail.  They may have completed Google searches on hearing loss, hearing loss treatment and hearing aids.  And they may have asked friends and acquaintances who wear hearing aids (or who have tried hearing aids) what they think – with responses that sometimes are less positive toward the potential help available than audiologists might hope.  And of course, as the journey becomes more protracted the patient and the patient’s communication partners frequently become more frustrated.

Prior to making an appointment with the audiologist, most persons with hearing loss gradually come to the realization that the communication frustrations are the result of, or at least aggravated by, their own existing hearing loss.  They come to the realization within their journey that much of the problem lies with them and that they do indeed need to take action.  Those family members who may earlier have been viewed as soldiers within the enemy camp, may gradually be viewed as having the persona of a supportive comrade.  And these comrades frequently come to the initial hearing consultation appointment with the patient to lend their aid as together they embark on a new leg of the hearing loss journey.

frustratedcoupleBut not all patients who come through our doors have reconciled themselves with their hearing loss.  Some still harbor varying degrees of denial, continuing to place much of the blame for communication failures on the speaking habits of others.  And these others continue to be viewed as residing in the enemy camp, pushing for actions that are not wanted or that are not perceived as needed.

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